UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER'S TRAUMA IS A LOVE LANGUAGE
Updated: Jul 16, 2020
Most of us carry some trauma from our past.
Some of us have trauma that deeply impacts us & our ability to connect, love & trust.
Understanding your partner’s past,
& Why they might react a certain way to things —
Is soooooo helpful in relationships
Some areas to know about:
🧐 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 — was it easy for them to make friends, were they bullied, did they feel like they didn’t belong?
🧐 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 — affectionate, high-standards, supportive, helicopters, not around much?
🧐 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 - did they fight a lot, did they get their heart broken, were they cheated on, did they feel loved, good enough, why did those relationships end?
You don’t have to fire off all these questions at your partner over dinner tonight, rehashing every painful memory (yikes 😬)
But if you are in the dark on any of these areas --
Get curious 🔍
Keep them in mind & start to learn about them overtime.