UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER'S TRAUMA IS A LOVE LANGUAGE

Most of us carry some trauma from our past. ⁣

Some of us have trauma that deeply impacts us & our ability to connect, love & trust. ⁣

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Understanding your partner’s past,⁣

& Why they might react a certain way to things — ⁣

Is soooooo helpful in relationships ⁣

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Some areas to know about: ⁣

🧐 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 — was it easy for them to make friends, were they bullied, did they feel like they didn’t belong?⁣

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🧐 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 — affectionate, high-standards, supportive, helicopters, not around much? ⁣

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🧐 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 - did they fight a lot, did they get their heart broken, were they cheated on, did they feel loved, good enough, why did those relationships end? ⁣

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You don’t have to fire off all these questions at your partner over dinner tonight, rehashing every painful memory (yikes 😬) ⁣

But if you are in the dark on any of these areas --⁣

Get curious 🔍⁣

Keep them in mind & start to learn about them overtime. ⁣

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