• Colleen Kelly

BUT WHO'S SIDE IS RIGHT??




This one took me awhile … ⁣

& if I’m honest I still catch myself at times arguing my perspective is the reality 😬⁣

If you’re someone who loveeeeessss being right (hi 👋🏼 I feel you) ⁣

You may want to stop reading...🙈⁣

But you really shouldn’t because ⁣

The thing is there are two different & completely VALID points of view in any situation ⁣

In conflict we tend to get caught up in arguing our side (it’s just human nature)⁣

“𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭. 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵?” ⁣

“𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘦𝘹𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥.”⁣

“𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴?” ⁣

But we each have our own unique viewpoint & interpretation of life. ⁣

THAT’S OKAY. ⁣

You don't need to have perceived a situation, a conversation, an experience the same way, ⁣

You don’t need to argue about who was right & who was wrong. ⁣

INSTEAD TRY: ⁣

Listening to each other’s sides without:⁣

➡️ Interruptions, thinking of your rebuttal, eye rolling 🙄⁣

Asking questions to better understand ⁣

➡️ (Ex. What did you hear when I said that; why did that make you so upset?) ⁣

Validate each other’s experience. ⁣

➡️ (Ex. Okay I get how you heard it that way, that makes sense. I can see why you were upset.) ⁣

✅ Clarify Your Perspective ⁣

➡️ (Ex. My intention when I said that was xyz)⁣

You don’t have to give up your perspective

You just have to respect each other’s.

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