3 THINGS TO AVOID WHEN IN A FIGHT
Updated: Jul 16, 2020
1️& 2️ are typically criticizing your partner’s character & lets’s be honest just NOT true -
People don’t like being attacked or generalized (& that’s fair)
So these tend to 💥spark💥 a shutdown or a counterattack 🥊
Escalating things fairly quickly.
3 is the fastest way to escalate a fight & erode the love between you
Patterns of insults, disrespect, condescending remarks
Can be tempting because we know exactly what buttons to push 🕹
Love is NOT pushing those buttons, no matter how badly you want to...
John Gottman, relationship expert, has found over decades of research that habitual remarks of disrespect that he categorizes as contempt is the number one indicator of divorce or separation in couples.
It’s not about ‘if’ you fight,
It’s HOW you fight that matters…